Before I continue on, I in no way am saying either type of mom/wife is better than the other. I'm just saying which one is better for me.
OK, so I have this vision of the mom/wife I want to be. There's these 2 women I admire so much. Their moms of boys and their boys are often dirty (not filthy, just looking like they had fun), sometimes they wear funny cloths because they're obsessed with a particular cartoon character and they want to be just like that character. I've seen them come to church wearing capes even. The moms never look frazzled but will admit they get that way sometimes. I've seen them get onto their kids and not care who's looking because boys will be boys and sometimes mom needs to step in. And their house is a mess (again not filthy) but toys on the floor and what not. They sit back while their children run around and be crazy and they don't expect them to be quiet and still at all times. I want to be the mom that chases my kids around the house with Nerf guns (those things are a blast) have crazy dance parties and covered in flour with the kids while baking something fun, like a cake from scratch for no reason. Leave the house a mess while we go on an adventure.
But then I go into someone's house and it's crazy clean. Not a speck of dirt anywhere and I'm pretty sure their DVDs are alphabetized by content and I start thinking that's the mom/wife I need to be. I feel like my husband should wake up to a perfectly clean house, well groomed children, a beautifully put together wife. This is the other vision. I want other people to look at me and see someone who has it together. My house is spotless, my children are so well behaved, I'm drop-dead gorgeous (don't we all wish) and everybody has
Well he says he'd rather wake up to a wife who's happy with kids covered in chocolate.
He says that we can deep clean 1 day a week as a family. There's chores that need to be done everyday, but beyond that, I shouldn't focus on getting everything perfect everyday. Maybe if we have company, but other than that, who freakin' cares.
He wants me to be the wife I want to be not the one I feel I need to be. We just need to suppress the 1950's wife and find the playful one.