Distancing

No not me...(this time).

My husband and I continuously worry about the safety of my step-daughters when they are in the care of their mother.  She's a very selfish person.  Some day I may get into all the reasons why I dislike her so much, but for now I'll just say we're not going to be best friends anytime soon and it's NOT because she's my husband's ex-wife, THAT I can deal with.  We've been sitting back worried as we wait for her to screw up enough to take her back to court and hoping nothing really bad and irreversible could happen before then.  We try not to think about it and work really hard to provide a safe environment for my step-daughters while they're here.

Unfortunately and fortunately, we got a call from a concerned neighbor of hers.  This may be what we're looking for and while there's a little bit of excitement there, we really don't want those girls to be in danger, yet they are.  I won't go into all the details on here, but I wanted to give you readers that background. 

So, we're both processing our feelings about this in our own little ways, but it's hard for me because I'm a woman ans I want to talk about it but he's a man and he wants to process it all internally.  I can tell he's distressed and I don't want to push him, but I want to be here for him.  I feel lost because I can feel the distance between us and I'm kind of shaky on how to move forward in the most productive way for him.  He's trying not to put this wall between us, but I feel it.  I understand it, but that doesn't make it any easier for me to deal with.  He knows I'm here when he's ready to talk and let everything out.